Actions speak louder than words

Actions speak louder than words.

Lo que verdaderamente cuenta son las acciones tomadas, no la plática de todo lo que va a suceder en el futuro. No se por que las mujeres se dejan impresionar por la conversación insulsa de algún imbécil que pretende conquistarlas a base de palabrería.

Una relación sana requiere las siguientes consideraciones:

1.- NUNCA se precipiten a llevar la relación a la intimidad. El hombre que tenga un interés sano en Uds sabrá que retrasar el sexo es incrementar la posibilidad de éxito de la relación. Me parece que también tener un "fuck friend" es una tontería, porque si han leido a Helen Fisher, sabrán que inevitablemente uno de los dos acabará involucrado emocionalmente, y la decepción amorosa será inevitable.

2.- SIEMPRE observen a su objetivo (hombre o mujer) en su ambiente natural. Tienen que saber como se desempeña sin la presión de saberse observado/a. Les dará mejor idea de su personalidad. Comparen la actitud de la persona que les interesa. Vean como se comporta con el resto del mundo y vean como se comporta con Uds. Si hay diferencias, habrá problemas en el futuro, porque solo está "actuando" con Uds.

3.- NUNCA salgan en una cita con "cola", no inviten ni a su mejor amigo ni a su mejor amiga (a menos que quieran ser bien claros que no tienen ningún interés en la persona y esta entienda que esta acción es necesariamente con la intención de "enfriar"). Las primeras citas son virtualmente entrevistas de trabajo, y Uds quieren saber absolutamente todo de la otra persona. Un tercero solo va a hacer mosca. A la inversa, nunca acepten que alguien les diga que si saldrán con Uds, pero que van a invitar a su hermanita, amigo, etc. La presencia de un tercero no les permitirá hacer todas las preguntas que requieren ni podrán Uds estar cien por ciento atentos a la persona que invitaron o les invitó.

4.- NUNCA acepten una invitación de una persona que obsesiva, compulsivamente les invita a salir. Nunca es buena señal que un hombre repita una invitación después de que Uds le dijeron que no tienen interés. Un hombre que les invita a salir después de que Uds dijeron que no una o dos o inclusive tres veces tiene, de inicio, tres problemas: 1) es sordo o tonto, 2) carece de creatividad y no tiene mas "habilidades" en su inventario de seductor que ser insistente, y finalmente 3) tiene con toda probabilidad un problema mental. ¿Comprarían Uds un auto o cualquier otra cosa costosa a un vendedor que solo supiera decir: "ándale, cómprame el nuevo modelo del Tsuru" sin saber hablar de ventajas, beneficios, etc, y mas importante en el caso de una persona, una actitud que inspire confianza y personalidad agradable y llevadera?

5.- NUNCA acepten regalos costosos. Un hombre que de inicio gasta mucho dinero en Uds, también carece de creatividad y de habilidades en su inventario de seducción y piensa que con el dinero lo solucionará. Vean el ejemplo de Donald Trump; nueva novia, nuevos regalos costosos y nuevo fracaso, aun mas costoso.

6.- NUNCA salgan con un hombre casado o con una mujer casada. Una pareja se constitutye básicamente porque ambos en la relación están cumpliendo con una serie de necesidades emocionales como: amor, sexo, amistad, apoyo doméstico, apoyo financiero, etc. Una persona infiel está cumpliendo con sus necesidades emocionales con DOS personas y eso es, necesariamente, trampa y cobardía. Trampa, porque nunca se lo informarán a su pareja. Es cobardía porque les falta el caracter para dar la explicación u ofrecer disculpas y pedir perdón.

7.- La única opinión válida es la de Uds, los amigos y las amigas NUNCA te darán una opinión confiable, porque simplemente no conocen a tu pareja como tú lo/la conoces, suponiendo que ya te diste el tiempo para conocerlo/a bien.


Los varones, para ser bien claro, somos los culpables de lo que está pasando. En algún sitio me encontré este recorte de un artículo publicado en un sitio web (o sea, yo no escribí esto), y me pareció muy cuerdo.

¿Cuales son las caracteristicas de un verdadero hombre?

To build a great house, you need a strong foundation on which to put all the other pretty things. To build a great man, you also need a solid foundation on which to add all the other little things that set the real men apart from the stronzos.
Over the last few years of writing this little column, I've learned that too many men have no foundation, no basis on which to build the principles I teach. There are many ways to define a man, and different people have different definitions, so I'm going to skip all that crap and tell you the only thing you need to know: my way is the correct way and that's it, that's all. Capisce?

a real man reads

If you don't agree, go read the column of some guy from Arkansas who thinks owning a pickup truck is what defines a man. You'll see how far you get with his advice.

Trait #1: A real man is strongA real man doesn't cry, doesn't moan, doesn't complain, doesn't get sick, and doesn't need to go to the doctor every time he sneezes. A real man makes decisions and lives with the consequences. A real man accepts responsibility for his actions and his words. A real man is firm. If life is a bitch, a real man will slap her and move on.
A real man is macho; a real man is tough; a real man doesn't show emotions. A real man is the backbone of his family and doesn't have time to be weak. If spiders scare you, you'll never be a real man.

Trait #2: A real man is focusedA real man knows the difference between what's important and what isn't. A real man doesn't waste time on stupidities that don't bring him any profit. Sure, there are things you can do as a hobby -- I like to shoot ducks -- but it must have a purpose. The purpose of my hobby is to improve my aim, and I don't have to tell you whether or not that's a useful thing in my line of work.
A real man focuses on power, money and family. He doesn't focus on sex. Sex comes as a result of having power, money and a wife (and if she doesn't satisfy you, there are plenty of other women who will, especially when you are powerful and rich).
From family to Family, know what's important

Trait #3: A real man knows the importance of familyA real man will keep his family strong and pass on his ancestors' history and traditions. A real man knows that his children are God's gift and should be treated as such, even if he disciplines them from time to time.
A real man must also remember his other Family, his organization. In my world, both my family and my Family hold the same importance, I protect them both with all my might. If you have a Family, don't forget where your loyalties lie and who has your back when you need it.

Trait #4: A real man doesn't gossipA real man keeps his mouth shut. He shelters information and rations his words. A real man does not reveal more than he has to, and doesn't engage in girlie talk about others. A real man doesn't discuss things he doesn't know about, or people he has never met.

Trait #5: A real man's word is his bondWhen a real man makes a promise, he keeps it. If he can't keep a promise, he doesn't give his word. A real man would rather die than break his word. A real man knows that his words are as powerful as his actions, and must be taken at face value. That is why he rations them (see above).

Trait #6: A real man strives to be a role modelA real man respects himself and others at all times, unless, of course, he has been disrespected. A real man sets an example for his disciples and especially his children. I never bring my work home, so my children only know me as their father and not as a waste management executive. You should do the same; a real man sets the tone for his children and keeps them from discovering that he has weaknesses.

Trait #7: A real man makes his own fortuneA real man doesn't settle for handouts or charity when it comes to his personal fortune. A real man isn't satisfied with papa's money. He spits on Lady Luck and decides his own destiny. A real man who inherits the goods from his forefathers takes his inheritance and turns it into 10 times what it was.
See what you've done? I'm turning into freaking Moses over here

Trait #8: A real man doesn't look like a woman
A real man doesn't have piercings and long hair, and he doesn't shave his chest. Manicures, however, are acceptable. Massages from female attendants are also tolerated. A real man knows that, outside of his barber, all his personal hygiene needs must be taken care of by a woman.
A real man has at least three suits (with a mandatory pinstriped one) that cost more than a roomful of escorts. A real man wears a suit at least three times a week. Any man who doesn't know how to tie a tie should hand in his testicoli immediately. And learn how to order a bottle; I'm sick of seeing babbos ordering Colt 45 in fine establishments.
lesson over
So what have you learned here today, class? You learned that you have a lot of homework to do before you can call yourself a real man. A real man is the essence of manhood because, by definition, he has achieved the pinnacle of his role.
You see? That was me trying to be a smart ass. Here's a bonus trait: a real man keeps it simple. If you know big words, use them rarely and appropriately, at least in front of morons who think they're smarter than you. Lesson over.
Watch your backs and keep your noses clean.